A RELATIONSHIP THAT WORKS

More than a safe place.  But certainly that.

It is always there for me.  Listens to me.  Helps me work things through without judgment. Helps me find the clarity needed. I can be truthful always.  I never have to pretend to feel anything that I don’t feel.  I am comforted by it.  I am never dismissed, put down.  It never makes me feel that I am not a good person.  It lifts me up when I need it.  It receives my joy and I feel better by sharing my joy with it.  It respects me, holds me, calms me. It doesn’t care if I am publicly recognized, decorated with awards, or if I have lots of money or power.  It accepts me no matter what I look like, how old I am, if I am sick or healthy.  I can cry, I can feel depressed, I can feel neglected, I can feel ignored, I can feel judged, I can feel the height of joy, the contentment of being balanced, I can feel the depth of tranquility, I can feel excited  - and all is welcome, received and clearer when I go there. I am never turned away. It is a place I can go when I need safety from others’ words and actions.  Everything that I feel is received without making me feel that it isn’t important.  It is a place that I can go for anything and everything and I am better for it.  It allows me a refuge to find my wholeness. 

What do I give?  I give my spirit, my heart, my mind, my thoughtfulness, my gentleness, my raw honesty, my compassion, my understanding, my kindness, my fairness, my soul, my desire to be whole, to be healed and to want to help the world be a better place.  I give my loving as much as I know how to love in a genuine and free way.

Recently, I was at a wedding.  I don’t believe we “get” married.  I believe we rather “become” married, if at all do anything about the concept of marriage.  The words that were in the vows were ~

Traditional Wedding Vows #1:
I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.  All things and more that I get as stated above.

What am I talking about above?  My journals.  With humor, I say: I could marry my journal and live forever in the state of grace because of what I give and receive from the journals that I have lived in and with.  The gratitude that I have for how they have enriched my life is real.

All rights reserved by author of this article/post by Sandra Hammel.  October 18, 2012

I ACHE BECAUSE OF ENDLESS QUESTIONS WHY, I LONG TO BE TOUCHED BY YOU

our worst ugliness

was our blindness

to our own beauty

and our fear

more than death

was rejection

from each other.

from the book to believe in man by Joseph Pintauro

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Longing to Touch

Suspended in time and in space

I yearn to feel more of something,

I know not of

I ache because of endless questions . . .whys

I long to touch

and

to be touched

by you.

By Sandra Hammel

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Truth versus Lies

I stand tall in my personal truth

Truths live in the light

Lies live in the dark

I find my integrity only when living in my truth.

And often feel my truth must be out loud.

It is my duty

to be the truths that I want to see in others.

Strength can’t be borrowed,

It can only be summoned up.

What is truth without courage?

I love standing tall.

With assurance I stand tall.

By Sandra Hammel, May 29, 2006

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To hear Daneil Day-Lewis talk about Heath the day that Heath Ledger was discovered unconscious, then pronounced dead.

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For Dad

I love you now and until forever ends

Dad and my son on Dad's self-made lake in Indiana

For my son

Destiny brought us together

Nothing will tear us apart

I carry your heart in my heart

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BLOGGING AS LIFE AND CATHARSIS

"...Therefore was a single human being created:
to teach you that to destroy a single human soul
is equivalent to destroying an entire world;
and to sustain a single human soul
is equivalent to sustaining an entire world."
Mishnah Sanhedrin 4:5

SOME OF MY OLDER BLOG POSTS' LINKS
that I particularly like

We Lose When Others Suffer

You change when you respect your pain

When justice isn't our compass
we get a world with man-made pain.
When justice isn't protected
we get a world confused and deluded.
When justice isn't the most important value,
we get politicians with license to violate our basic human rights.

Habeas Corpus is non-negotiable.
We get the politicians we order.

I think it will be the "developing" world
who teaches the "developed" world
priorities
and the way toward the justice
we only afford ourselves in our dreaming.

When Wrong Is Taken As Right

"Only when the last tree has died and the last river has been poisoned and the last fish has been caught will we realize that we cannot eat money."

Ignorance is not bliss. It is just ignorance. And it can be deadly. Just ask the people in this story.

WE ARE THE STEWARDS OF THE PLANET. IT IS NOT OUR RIGHT TO STRIP THE LAND OF ITS NATURAL INTEGRITY AND BEAUTY. PRESIDENT BUSH HAS DEMONSTRATED THAT HE HAS NO UNDERSTANDING OF THIS. I FIND THIS MAN TO HAVE MISREPRESENTED US AND HAS NOT ONLY DISGRACED HIMSELF, BUT US, AS UNITED STATES CITIZENS. WE SHOULD BE STANDING UP TO HIM.

Family and Strangers

The Power of Beauty ~ Higher Than Reason

How Do We Expect Peace to Be the Outcome from War? And Where the Girls Are In Today's World

A Life to Look Back On with Its Fun and the Pain

Human Dignity through Human Rights ~ We Are All the Keepers of Justice

I Believe In You ~ I've Always Believed in You

Impeachable Acts - Warning: Will Be Offensive to Bush Admirers

which includes this:
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What Constitution Is George Upholding and Protecting?

It's Taken A Long Time to Be Me

Death Does Not End a Relationship

Living My Life