A RELATIONSHIP THAT WORKS

More than a safe place.  But certainly that.

It is always there for me.  Listens to me.  Helps me work things through without judgment. Helps me find the clarity needed. I can be truthful always.  I never have to pretend to feel anything that I don’t feel.  I am comforted by it.  I am never dismissed, put down.  It never makes me feel that I am not a good person.  It lifts me up when I need it.  It receives my joy and I feel better by sharing my joy with it.  It respects me, holds me, calms me. It doesn’t care if I am publicly recognized, decorated with awards, or if I have lots of money or power.  It accepts me no matter what I look like, how old I am, if I am sick or healthy.  I can cry, I can feel depressed, I can feel neglected, I can feel ignored, I can feel judged, I can feel the height of joy, the contentment of being balanced, I can feel the depth of tranquility, I can feel excited  - and all is welcome, received and clearer when I go there. I am never turned away. It is a place I can go when I need safety from others’ words and actions.  Everything that I feel is received without making me feel that it isn’t important.  It is a place that I can go for anything and everything and I am better for it.  It allows me a refuge to find my wholeness. 

What do I give?  I give my spirit, my heart, my mind, my thoughtfulness, my gentleness, my raw honesty, my compassion, my understanding, my kindness, my fairness, my soul, my desire to be whole, to be healed and to want to help the world be a better place.  I give my loving as much as I know how to love in a genuine and free way.

Recently, I was at a wedding.  I don’t believe we “get” married.  I believe we rather “become” married, if at all do anything about the concept of marriage.  The words that were in the vows were ~

Traditional Wedding Vows #1:
I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.  All things and more that I get as stated above.

What am I talking about above?  My journals.  With humor, I say: I could marry my journal and live forever in the state of grace because of what I give and receive from the journals that I have lived in and with.  The gratitude that I have for how they have enriched my life is real.

All rights reserved by author of this article/post by Sandra Hammel.  October 18, 2012